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I'm not even 16 yet and TWO of my best friends were assaulted last year. One was raped. Both boys were from all-boy private schools in sydney. I dont have that many close friends, so the fact that in one year it happened to two? I can't help but think "what if i'm next." I'm terrified.

I went on a couple dates with a guy from X and he was really nice until I brought him over to my house one night. We were hooking up on my couch and he started to try and finger me but I told him no because my parents were going to come home soon. This didn't matter to him. He kept grabbing me and grabbing my hand and putting it on his dick. Every time I moved it away and said no, he would put it back and say yeah come on it'll be quick. I got up and made him leave. Doesn't matter how nice a guy seems, this still happens

I was drunk at a party and a guy I trusted took advantage of the situation and ignored me when I said no. I said no so many times. He didn't listen and didn’t stop. The next time I saw him was at a sexual assault protest less than a month after he assaulted me. I still feel his hands on my body and am now in therapy with ptsd.

I had consensual sex with a guy who had graduated from a private boy's school. During it, he stopped and started slapping me really hard. I asked him to stop and he refused, telling me that he liked causing pain and he pinned my arms down so that I couldn't push him off. He later did something else of a similar nature and sent me unsolicited pictures.

I was speaking to a boy. He was the grade above me and groomed me into doing favours for him. I told him I was interested in a relationship with him, and his response was to take me to parks at night time to perform sexual favours for him. I would always ask to go somewhere nice with him instead and he declined. When at the park at night, he would force me to perform oral sex on him and directed everything I did. I was alone, in the dark, in a park, and was scared. I obeyed what he said to avoid being hurt, and to prevent him from thinking I was 'frigid', even though I had never performed oral sex before. He continued using me like this until I eventually stood up for myself and said it wasn't what I wanted.

There was a guy I flirted with, but never wanted it to go further than that. He did. I thought I couldn't say no, because then I was leading him on. That experience still affects my personal relationships, nearly 10 years on.

It was after our year 10 formal in 2020, where there was a massive afters party at one of the girl's houses. I was drunk and a guy from X (who was a friend at the time), led me up to one of the rooms for me to rest in. I woke up the next morning with my panties and bra off.

I was blackout drunk and raped by a boy from X. At the time, none of the boys from the school believed my story. One of them contacted me and mocked me.

There was a kid from a school i had briefly attended who was in year 9 at the time who was known as 'a bad boy' and had picked up a few girls before who one day AT SCHOOL he decided he would lead a girl to behind the storage and forced her to give him a hand job and repeatedly said 'this is for me' to this girl who was distraught and just kept on going so he wouldn't hit her (he had done before) when the story came out instead of the school addressing the issue of consent they swept the story under the carpet and THE GIRL GOT SUSPENDED SHE WAS ASSAULTED AND THEY IGNORED HER AND SUSPENDED HER

I was invited to a semi-formal at another all boys catholic school by a friend of mine. I had comments made about me from other boys at the school about my body and it made me feel super uncomfortable. After the semi when i was leaving my date followed me to my uber and started to demand that i kiss him and give him head saying, I "had to because he paid for my ticket to formal". when I refused, he grabbed my boobs and squeezed them and then left the car. I felt embarrassed and uncomfortable and cried the whole uber back home.

When I was about 15 years old I was at a party with some male and female friends. I had gone to the toilet and as I was in the toilet a boy I knew barged in. I was surprised and just thought he was drunk but then he started trying to touch me and pushed me up against the wall, I think I remember laughing nervously and saying I wanted to get out of the toilet. He kept trying to block my way and not let me out whilst asking me to touch his penis. The toilet was connected to the bathroom so you had to go through the bathroom to get to it, I had made my way out to the bathroom but I still couldn't get out to where other people where. He pinned me against the bathroom wall and pulled his pants down, I had never touched a penis before but he just kept asking and pressuring that I touched it for a few seconds and then stopped. During being in the bathroom my friend opened the door and I looked her dead in the eyes and said get me out of here, she laughed and closed the door. He didn't stop trying to pressure me and was now asking me to put his penis in my mouth. I pulled myself away as soon as I could and opened the bathroom door and ran away. This boy was popular and what we thought as young girls as being hot. Nothing ever happened to him in way of punishment.

I was 15 years old at a party in 2019. I got extremely drunk to the point where i blacked out and don't remember what happened that night from around 8pm - 1am. I remember waking up in the morning and being told that i was unconscious on the floor for half the night and that i had sex with an older boy.. i had no recollection of this. I remember waking up in my friends bed around 1:30am and an another boy (now graduated) came into the room and lay down next to me and then held me down and started kissing me. I asked him to get off of me about 7 times but he persisted and kept saying 'please can we just have sex' he only got off of me when one of his friends came into the room and asked what he was doing.

I was assaulted by my Year 9 boyfriend. When I came forward about my story months later after realising from a youtube video that I had been raped, I was laughed at by my peers and labelled a liar by his friends. I still struggle with it till this day, I do believe if consent was more openly discussed, things would have gone differently and i wouldn't have been so shunned.

I was 13, and my family had recently moved to Australia. I was starting to come to terms with my sexuality, realising that I was gay, though I didn't come out or have sex until I was 21. I went to a Christian private school, people were nice to me in my first month or so. One day, a boy who had started bullying me cornered me in a classroom. He called me faggot and started rubbing his crotch, saying I should perform oral sex so I can get some experience and know if I enjoy it or not. I denied that I was gay, and tried to leave. He pulled out his erect penis, to which then I shoved him away and ran to the bathroom to hide. I've never told anyone about this. It was later in life that I realised sexual harassment is not just physical, it is also verbal.

It was 2014 schoolies and I had been out partying at a friends place. I had been fooling around with a boy and ended up falling asleep in his bed. I woke up to him having sex with me. I remember being shocked and asking if he had a condom on but that's it, I just lay there hoping he would finish soon. It took me years to realise it was not my fault or anything that I had done but instead it was rape, he had raped me.

In my second year of uni in 2018, I was convinced by my first boyfriend into oral sex in a public bathroom. I regret this, and wish I had had the confidence to reject his advances at the time. He was a bit younger than me.

I had a boyfriend year 9, he was year 10 but nearly sixteen, he would try and basically grope me and touch my inner thighs at break times. Even after I'd say no he would stop for a moment then just do it again. After we broke up we were in the same friend group and later on everytime the group hung out he always sat close to me and 'be tired' and rest his head on my breast or rest his hand on my thggh under the blankets. It was very uncomfortable.

When I was in year 8 I was having a sleepover with one of my girlfriends and we were skyping some of our friends who went to X. They insisted we play truth or dare and progressively the questions made me more and more uncomfortable until I was asked to send them a photo of my boobs. I told my friend that I really didn't want to, but she told me it wasn't a big deal. When I seemed hesitant the boys started teasing me and mocking me. My friend convinced me to at least send them a photo of me in a bra and I felt like I had no other option so I did. I was only 13 at the time. Now I'm 21 and totally horrified that our friends started sexualising us from such a young age.

I've had instances with both X and X boys in my year (2021) which have occurred during relationships (where it's assumed consent still implies) - sadly this is not the case and I was often coerced sexually when I expressed desire not to. This ranges from being taken to public parks and forced to perform sexual activities to just general aggressiveness or being put down when I refused.

I met a seemingly sweet guy from X on a night out in Manly. I was quite drunk at the time and we ended up hooking up. I insisted that we use a condom and he grudgingly went and bought some. Despite this, he took it off during sex without my consent and tried to hold me down to keep going after I realised what he'd done.

I was 14, under the duty of care of my teachers on a school trip. my best friend leant over me to copy my answers and touched me under the table. i froze completely. i could not physically move or speak. he took my silence as consent, and did it again a few minutes later. then as the day went on he kept touching me; wrapping his arms around me and grabbing my ass. after that, i had panic attacks every day being in classes with him, experienced total disassociation, nightmares, self-blame and suicidal thoughts. i went to the school at my lowest point and they did nothing. i was forced to stay in classes with him, and the only bit of counselling the school psychologist did was put me in a room with him and have me explain why what he had done was wrong. she made him apologise and he was free to go. i eventually moved schools before grade 11 because they told me i would have to change my classes if i wanted to be away from him because i was the one who had the problem being around him.

During year 11, I met with a guy off of tinder where I was pressured into sex. I left that day feeling disgusted with myself. I spent years after not sure if it was rape because I had never exclusively said the word 'no' but he never asked for my consent (and I was crying). I was manipulated by him and those around me that this was 'normal'. I now understand that I was raped that day.

I was raped by my high school boyfriend when I was 16. We were both in year 11, he would constantly emotionally abuse me and told me I'm crazy and that I'm delusional. Every time he wanted to have sex I would try to lie my way out of it and he would slam me down and choke me then proceeds to have sex with me. He filmed me without consent multiple times, I did ask him to delete it and he told me I didn't trust him. He then started crying telling me how hurt me was because I had the audacity to tell to delete the sex tapes even though he's my boyfriend.

I (male) was 17. A few of us from the country were invited to a big party. The drugs and alcohol there were eye opening to me and I ended up getting black out drunk. I hardly knew anyone there and ended up passing out in a spare room. I woke up the next morning gasping for air as a guy I didn't know was forcing his penis down my throat. Even more horrifying was his friend next to us holding my arms so I couldn't struggle.